I did something last night that I've never done before: I watched a movie with a man.
To be clear, in the past, I have watched ten minutes of a movie with many men. By the time the plot gets going we are making out, headed towards horizontal land, movie forgotten. I have a short attention span, and I would rather be having sex than sitting for two hours staring at a screen. Usually the men I date are in agreement with this policy.
But last night, I went over the the home of my hiking buddy that I'd been having regrets about friend-zoning two months ago, and we watched a movie. I mean, really watched a movie. I tried my best to flirt, touched his arm, laughed, angled my body towards him, but I could not close the deal. We sat inches apart on his sofa, both of us wishing that he had the guts to make a move.
And then I was reminded of why I friend-zoned him two months ago. He is odd! He is crazy-smart (I saw him solve a rubik's cube in under two minutes), attractive, and interesting to talk to, but he is a born-and-raised Seattle man: shy, passive, and a bit of a loner. I find the geekiness endearing, but I wish it came with a splash of self-confidence.
After an hour of sitting side by side on his couch, I realized I was not going to get any. I started to fall asleep, and I excused myself to go home.
Now I have to refriend-zone a guy who I tried to unfriend-zone after previously friend-zoning him. Not complicated. Not complicated at all.
To be clear, in the past, I have watched ten minutes of a movie with many men. By the time the plot gets going we are making out, headed towards horizontal land, movie forgotten. I have a short attention span, and I would rather be having sex than sitting for two hours staring at a screen. Usually the men I date are in agreement with this policy.
But last night, I went over the the home of my hiking buddy that I'd been having regrets about friend-zoning two months ago, and we watched a movie. I mean, really watched a movie. I tried my best to flirt, touched his arm, laughed, angled my body towards him, but I could not close the deal. We sat inches apart on his sofa, both of us wishing that he had the guts to make a move.
And then I was reminded of why I friend-zoned him two months ago. He is odd! He is crazy-smart (I saw him solve a rubik's cube in under two minutes), attractive, and interesting to talk to, but he is a born-and-raised Seattle man: shy, passive, and a bit of a loner. I find the geekiness endearing, but I wish it came with a splash of self-confidence.
After an hour of sitting side by side on his couch, I realized I was not going to get any. I started to fall asleep, and I excused myself to go home.
Now I have to refriend-zone a guy who I tried to unfriend-zone after previously friend-zoning him. Not complicated. Not complicated at all.
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